mad at me!" Again,

mad at me!" Again, this behavior may be totally under the
threshold of your awareness, but it interferes greatly with
your ability to enjoy things without feeling "uptight" and
"stressed."
Finally there is obsessive analysis. When you are
obsessed about analyzing things, you find yourself wanting
to re-hash a task or an issue over and over again. For
instance, you might find yourself making statements such
as, "I need to look this over, study it, and know it inside and
out...or else I can't relax!" or "If I relax and let things go
without looking them over repeatedly, things go wrong!"
While analytical thinking is an excellent trait, if it's
done in excess you never get to stop and smell the roses
because you're too busy trying to analyze everything and
everyone around you. Gaining insight into this type of
behavior is one of the most important keys to letting go of
stress, and getting complete power over your anxiety.
If you find yourself engaging in any of the above
"Blocking Behaviors", there are two things you can do to
help yourself. First, ask the people you know, love, and
trust, "Am I negative about things?", "Do I complain a lot?",
and "Am I difficult to be around?"
This may be hard for you to listen to, as the truth
sometimes hurts a great deal. But the insight you will get
from others' assessment of you is invaluable, and you'll
know precisely how others see you. Accept their comments
as helpful info, and know that you will gain amazing insights
from what you hear.
Second, keep a journal to write down and establish
patterns of when you are using "blocking behaviors." Even
if you are not thrilled with the idea of writing, you can make
little entries into a note book or journal each day. The great
part is that you'll begin to see patterns in your behavior that