When they do take a moment for themselves,

people’s feelings, and often take things personally, but they
also rarely focus on themselves.
When they do take a moment for themselves, they feel
selfish, indulgent, and guilty which is why they are often on
the go, rushing to get things done. Because people pleasers
accomplish so much and are easy to get along with, they
are often the first to be asked to do things - they are
vulnerable to be being taken advantage of.
People pleasers were most likely raised in homes
where their needs and feelings were not valued, respected,
or considered important. They were often expected as
children to respond to or to take care of other people’s
needs. Or they may have been silenced, neglected, or
otherwise abused, thus learning that their feelings and
needs were not important.
In many cultures, girls are raised to be people pleasers
- to think of others’ needs first, and to neglect their own.
Many women have at least some degree of people pleasing
in them. Men who identified with their mothers often do as
well.
People pleasers’ focus is mostly on others and away
from themselves. They often feel empty, or don’t know how
they feel, what they think, or what they want for
themselves. But it’s possible to change this pattern and to
feel better about yourself.
I managed to learn how to break out of this cycle. You
can do the same thing if you see yourself in the above
description. You want to know how? It’s easier than you
think!
First, practice saying NO. This is a very important
word! Say it as often as you can, just to hear the word come
out of your mouth. Say it out loud when you are alone.
Practice phrases with NO in them, such as, "No, I can’t do
that" or "No, I don’t want to go there". Try it for simple