People pleasers hold back from saying what,

People pleasers think of other people’s needs before
their own. They worry about what other people want, think,
or need, and spend a lot of time doing things for others.
They rarely do things for themselves, and feel guilty when
they do. It’s hard being a people pleaser.
People pleasers hold back from saying what they really
think or from asking for what they want if they think
someone will be upset with them for it. Yet they often spend
time with people who don’t consider their needs at all. In
fact, people pleasers often feel driven to make insensitive or
unhappy people feel better - even at the detriment to
themselves.
Constantly trying to please other people is draining and
many people pleasers feel anxious, worried, unhappy, and
tired a lot of the time. They may not understand why no one
does anything for them, when they do so much for others -
but they often won’t ask for what they need.
This is the trap I fell into. I found myself always
agreeing to do for others but when I needed those same
people to help ME out, they were curiously occupied.
A people pleaser may believe that if they ask someone
for help and that person agrees, that person would be giving
out of obligation, not because they really wanted to. The
thinking goes - if they really wanted to help, they would
have offered without my asking.
This line of thinking happens because people pleasers
themselves feel obliged to help and do not always do things
because they want to. Sadly, people pleasers have been
taught that their worth depends on doing things for other
people.
It’s painful being a people pleaser –believe me, I
know! People pleasers are not only very sensitive to other